Defining success in 2020

I guess everyone wants to be successful, myself included. But first I’ll need to define what success means to me. It’s a question that I have not asked myself in awhile. Thinking about it, my answer now is actually rather different from when I last thought about this a couple years ago.

Back then success to me was doing what I love, working for myself, starting something of my own, and being a somebody. I bought very strongly into the whole pursuing your own dream instead of working hard to help someone else pursue their dream thing. I thought success meant being the next Mark Zuckerberg (back then he wasn’t in so much trouble) or Elon Musk. It wasn’t about the money, it was about the recognition.

And now, success to me still means doing what I love, but the rest is kinda different. On top of doing what I love, I want to have a good work-life balance. As much as I love my job, I still need breaks, and I want to be able to pursue my many hobbies and spend time with the people I love. Because success also means having quality relationships with the people I care about, and having the mental and emotional capacity to go about building these relationships.

Looking back, I realised how much my goals and ideas have changed. Maybe I’m more grounded in reality, or I’ve matured, or I’m afraid of dreaming big. Some would say having work-life balance probably even more unrealistic! But that’s alright, I think its possible and I’ll have much more fun in the process of this pursuit.